MAINTAINING INNER BALANCE
Every circumstance we encounter has a specific purpose. And that purpose is always to serve our highest good, no matter what it looks like – ‘good’ or ‘bad’.
Now, we’re all human. This means we’re all prone to the influence of our minds. The ego. And when we encounter disruptions to our inner peace, we don’t always process them as serving a purpose. We process these disruptions as pain and inconveniences and sometimes take on a victim-like mentality.
Life is not happening to us. Life is responding to us. And until we use this understanding to shift our perspectives on certain events in our lives, we will continue to find ourselves experiencing more discomfort than we need to.
We’re the only ones who get in our own way – through a myriad of things such as excuses, non-accountability, and succumbing to self-doubt and fear.
Some of the most painful and uncomfortable situations produce the most amazing and fulfilling results, but here’s the catch – no matter what the situation looks like, they’re only painful and uncomfortable because of how we choose to process them. This may be hard to swallow, especially because there can be pretty sh*tty looking situations that occur in life, but the fact of the matter is that how we respond to situations is a choice, no matter how ‘bad’ it seems.
For example, there may be a general consensus in the world that you should feel angry and vengeful if someone steals from you. Fair enough. But the fact of the matter is you could also choose to feel at compassionate and forgiving…as who knows? – They may have been in a tough situation themselves. This is not to say that you should choose one or the other, or that it’s not okay to feel negatively about this, or that stealing is okay. The point I’m trying to make here, is that the power always lies within you to choose the energy you’re going to take on… at any given point.
No matter the situation, allowing yourself to wallow in negative feelings of self-pity, anger and resentment affects only one person. You. It eats away at you and gets in the way of any form of positive progression.
Of course we’re bound to come across these feelings. We’re human.
But the key is in knowing your power.
There is so much power in making inner balance and harmony your priority in life. I’m not saying negativity and disruption in your external world should be ignored, but it would serve you well to approach and deal with it from an egoless place. This is progressive.
It may be easier said than done, but there are a few ways in which you can manage challenges, negativity and disruption when it occurs in your physical reality:
Recognise and acknowledge your negative feelings. Sometimes negativity creeps in without us realising. We then find ourselves being very reactive and blind to the fact that our ego has slowly crept into the driver’s seat.
Give yourself some time to respond. Further to my point above, if you’re still full of negative emotion, it’s probably not a good time to respond. Practice being more intentional when it comes to dealing with adversity. Giving yourself time to respond gives you a chance to remind yourself that how you deal with the situation ultimately affects you. It also allows you to question your intention behind your response and to consciously choose where to source your response… from your ego or your higher self. It reminds you of and reaffirms your power.
Analyse your inner world. How have you been feeling? How have you been operating? Have you been treating yourself like the divine being you are? This one tends to open our eyes to what we’ve been thinking and feeling about ourselves and, as a result, how we’ve been treating ourselves. It’s our responsibility to show the world how we want to be treated. What I’m asking you to do here is consider how you could have contributed to your current circumstance. This is called accountability. And whilst this may not come easily, it puts you in a very powerful position.
Deal with it and let go. As I said before, we’re human and we’re going to feel negative emotion. But the key is to not let it fester. Face your feelings head on. Allow yourself to feel them fully and then let them go.